How the environment "prescribes" our personality for years to come
Another telling story from my recent vacation came to mind - it relates to this very topic☝🏻
Sitting on the balcony during the evening part of the day, I observed a family on the veranda of a small café inside the complex of three people having dinner: middle-aged parents and a boy of about twelve.
Eating in silence, at one point the mother says to her daughter, "You'll eat now and go to bed." "I don't want to sleep," the boy replies. "Nobody's asking you," the father puts in his point.
Nothing seemingly unique or inappropriately rude. Probably a lot of people have heard similar things in their childhood.
But here's what's likely to happen to this boy.
When he grows up, he won't even realize why he doesn't have an opinion about life.
Why he torments himself with a bitchy wife, why he bends to a despotic boss, why he tolerates strange friends who waste his time and unashamedly use his resources without giving anything in return🙌🏻
Why?
Because such poking (which his father did) forms a slavish firmament throughout growing up - no one asks you, keep your head down, take a walk in the yard.
Discipline is certainly useful and necessary.
But, I have to ask, who do you want to raise?
An obedient man, following commands, the opinion of the majority and unable to make serious decisions?
I doubt it🤔
Then, future parents, give your children plenty of freedom and give a REASON for all this "discipline".
thank you so much for give me this good lecture this topic is dedicated direct for because when I was a young I was pass through all thing written there up untill now I affected much so please I need your cooperation to help me to stop this habits